Alternate title: My "fascination" with societies boldness to remark on pregnant women's bodies...Over the last 8 years, I have had the
privilege to "listen in" on some rather choice pregnancy conversations, as well as taken part in a few of my own. Some of these conversations are with complete strangers...members of the general public who feel that any pregnant woman has a sign on her that reads, "Please...go ahead and unleash thy tongue".
A few months ago I listened to a conversation between a lady who looked to be about 7-8 months pregnant and I'm assuming an acquaintance behind the cash register at a restaurant. The employee was commenting on the size of the ladies belly (because you know that's socially acceptable to do to pregnant people ONLY) and was insisting that the doctors HAD to have her due date wrong.
In other words...she was saying that she was sooo large that the baby should've come a month ago. The kind pregnant woman just "chuckled" and assured her that she still had that long to go and that her date was right.
I only tell this story (instead of one of my own) to illustrate society's approach to pregnant women. Yes, I understand it is somewhat of a "freak of nature" to see an 8 month pregnant person walking down the street. Yes, I understand that society feels "entitled" to comment at will whenever they come across a pregnant person - especially at the gym...working out. What would you have us do? Sit on the couch and eat
bon bons all day? No, I assure you, pregnant women DO NOT want to receive comments from every Jane, Dick & Sally on the size of their belly, and they DO NOT want to give their due date out to ever single person that approaches them...(sometimes this is multiple times - to the same person). What does it matter? When you see the pregnant person WITH the baby in their arms...then chances are ...they HAD the baby. :) (see I can put a smiley face by this so I don't get thrown into the moody
emo pregnancy category.)
I also find it strange that most of the people giving the commentary are women who have been pregnant themselves...do they not remember the last trimester...when you brace yourself every time you leave your house for the onslaught of pregnancy conversations and cheery comments like "wow! you've popped! when did THAT happen?"
Umm...since I saw you 2 days ago...I'm not really sure... You reach a point where you just keep your eyes down and AVOID all eye contact so that no one feels they can approach you and go through the "random pregnant person" checklist:
-When are you due (
socially disabled people will then add an exclamation like "wow...that long huh?")-Is it a boy or a girl
-Is this your first
-Do you have a name
-You're carrying so high/low/wide
-Do you go early
-You're still here at the gym...Are you okay? Do you need help off that machine (
no grandma, I've been lifting weights for quite some time...thank you.)-How are you feeling
Feel free to add to this list...This post has been 8 years in the making. I'm sure I'll need to revisit it to add some more. But I'll sign off with my favorite comment of all time,
"Are you SURE you aren't having twins?" (Luckily I've only overheard this one...never had to receive it.)
And since we need a pictures...I'm going to add this totally random image I just received from my brother...thank you for reminding us to "embrace our differences"